“The ego loves to complain and feel resentful not only about other people but also situations.”
Complaining is a common thing that most people do on a daily basis. We can complain about places we don’t want to be, we complain about being hungry, going to work, or complain about other people. I used to be unaware of how much I was complaining throughout the day and what kind of negativity it brought to my daily life.
One morning, my alarm didn’t go off for my 10am class. I typically never sleep past 8 or 9am so I woke up confused and frustrated, “I can’t believe my alarm didn’t go off.” “I missed class.” “How annoying.”
See the egos biggest enemy is the present moment. Which in other words, is life itself. Living in the present is one of the most difficult tasks that I have yet to accomplish, but that is a blog for another day.
My initial thoughts when I woke up and realized I missed my class were negative. Immediately, my mood was set by my reaction to the situation.
But, I had been aware of how I reacted and instead, decided to utilize my time to practice yoga. I set my intention for the day and wrote down all of the positive outcomes of the negative thoughts I had originally. “I was able to take time to myself and practice yoga because my alarm didn’t go off.” “I was able to let my body get the full rest it needed without the interruption of an alarm.”
“Nonreaction to the ego is one of the most effective ways not only of going beyond ego in yourself but also dissolving the collective human ego.”
But your reactions to situations are often affected by other people. “There is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right.” For you to be right, you need someone else to be wrong. Some people are unaware of how often they assert their dominance through proving people wrong. “They are addicted to upset and anger as others are to a drug. Through reacting against this or that they assert and strengthen their feeling of self.”
However, if you react to their egoic nature, you additionally become egoic yourself. Take a step back and review the situation, think to yourself: is it worth my time or energy? is it worth getting upset about?
Dismiss your egoic nature by detaching yourself from situations and reactions that are able to affect the way you think, speak or feel. By doing this, you have the ability to change your mindset and control the way a scenario plays out.
Take time for yourself and set intentions daily. Reflect on those and you will find yourself moving positively in executing those intentions.